- Sheila Miyoshi Jager: ‘by 1987, about a year into our relationship, he already had his sights on becoming president.’
- Obama believed he needed to ‘fully identify as African American’ to fulfill his political ambitions –
( Daily Mail ) Barack Obama proposed to a different woman – twice – before he met Michelle and kept on seeing her for the first year of his relationship with FLOTUS.
Sheila Miyoshi Jager was almost entirely omitted from Obama’s own biography, Dreams of My Father, where she was simply combined with his other white exes into one character.
But according to Rising Star, by David J. Garrow, Jager played a huge role in Obama’s formative years. So much so that even after Barack met his wife-to-be Michelle, he kept seeing Jager on and off for at least a year, the book claims.
The couple were very much in love in the mid 1980s when they were living together in Chicago, according to Jager, who described them as being ‘an island unto ourselves.’
Their relationship quickly progressed and in the winter of 1986, while visiting his girlfriend’s parents, Barack popped the question, Jager told Garrow.
Now 53, the associate professor and director of the East Asian program at Oberlin College in Ohio, told Garrow that Obama became ‘so very ambitious very suddenly.’
‘I remember very clearly when this transformation happened, and I remember very specifically that by 1987, about a year into our relationship, he already had his sights on becoming president.’
But Obama believed he needed to ‘fully identify as African American’ to fulfill his political ambitions – and believed that having a non-black spouse could damage his prospects, according to the book.
This reportedly put pressure on Obama’s relationship with Jager who is of Dutch and Japanese heritage.
By the time he was leaving for Harvard Law School, their relationship was on the rocks.
But Obama was not ready to give up on Jager, and proposed to her for a second time – asking her to join him in Harvard.
Again Jager turned him down.
She believed that his proposal was ‘out of a sense of desperation over our eventual parting and not in any real faith in our future.’
The second marriage rejection was too much for their relationship, and the couple split.